WORDS WOMEN USE

:: FINE ::
This is the word women use to end an argument
when they feel they are right and you need to shut
up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman
looks - this will cause you to have one of those
arguments.

:: FIVE MINUTES ::
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five
minutes that your football game is going to last
before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

:: NOTHING ::
This means "something," and you should be on
your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe
the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you
inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing"
usually signifies an argument that will last "Five
Minutes" and end with 'Fine.'

:: GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows) ::
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman
getting upset over Nothing and will end with the
word "Fine."

:: GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows) ::
This means "I give up" or "do what you want
because I don't care." You will get a "Raised
Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed
by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in
about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

:: LOUD SIGH ::
This is not actually a word, but is a onverbal
statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud
Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that
moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time
standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing."

:: SOFT SIGH ::
Again, not a word, but a nonverbal statement. "Soft
Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is
to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

:: THAT'S OKAY ::
This is one of the most dangerous statements that
a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay"
means that she wants to think long and hard
before paying you back for whatever it is that you
have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the
word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised
Eyebrow".

:: GO AHEAD ::
At some point in the near future, you are going to
be in some mighty big trouble.

:: PLEASE DO ::
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is
giving you the chance to come up with whatever
excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is
that you have done. You have a fair chance with
the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get
a "That's Okay."

:: THANKS ::
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say
you're welcome.

:: THANKS A LOT ::
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will
say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off
at you. It signifies that you have offended her in
some callous way, and will be followed by
the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is
wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell
you "Nothing".

ME!

It's not so easy loving me
It gets so complicated
All the things you've gotta be
Everything's changin
But you're the truth
I'm amazed by all your patience
Everything I put you through

When I'm about to fall
Somehow you're always waitin
with your open arms to catch me
You're gonna save me from myself
from myself, yes
You're gonna save me from myself

My love is tainted by your touch
Cuz some guys have shown me aces
But you've got that royal flush
I know it's crazy everyday
Well tomorrow may be shaky
But you never turn away

Don't ask me why I'm cryin
Cuz when I start to crumble
You know how to keep me smilin
You always save me from myself
from myself, myself
You're gonna save me from myself

I know it's hard, it's hard
But you've broken all my walls
You've been my strength, so strong
And don't ask me why I love you
It's obvious your tenderness
Is what I need to make me
a better woman to myself
to myself, myself
You're gonna save me from myself!

Detaching yourself from the experience

Don't cling to things, because everything is impermanent...

Detachment doesn't mean you don't let experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That's how you are able to leave it.

If you hold back on the emotions- if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them- you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You are afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then you can say, "All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now i need to detach from that emotion for a moment."

Once you recognize the feel of those emotions, their texture, their moisture, the shiver down the back, the quick flash of heat that crosses your brain- then you will be able to say, "Okay. this is fear. Step away from it. Step away."

I thought about how often this was needed in everyday life. How we feel lonely, sometimes to the point of tears, but we don't let those tears come because we are not supposed to cry--we suppress our emotions. Or how we feel a surge of love for a partner but we don't say anything because we're frozen with the fear of what those words might do to the relationship.

Turn on the faucet, wash yourself with the emotion. it won't hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, " all right, it's just fear, I don't have to let it control me. I see it for what it is".

Same for loneliness: you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely- but eventually be able to say, "All right, that was my moment with loneliness. I'm not afraid of feeling lonely, but now i'm going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world and I'm going to experience them as well.

Detach....